How to Mend a Broken Heart

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How to Mend a Broken Heart

Updated August 28, 2011

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To a woman who has experienced emotional trauma from relationship with men either flight or fight. The flight reaction is common. She will stay away as if the world is made up of only women; she no longer wants to associate with men says a renowned author of "That's No Reason To Men-Proof Your Life." The fight reaction is not unusual. She will badly attempt to get back at men. He may be the guy who caused her all the troubles and when the man comes strutting by her, she feels ready for revenge he added.

Most psychologists agree that any of these reactions is the worst things that women can do in such a situation. If ever you find yourself in such a situation what can you do?

A relationship expert shares the following advice on how to mend a broken heart.

Acceptance. Acceptance does come, but it takes time. It takes many mornings of cold pillows and empty beds. It sometimes even takes a number of holidays, anniversaries, birthdays when everyone on Earth seems to be in love and happy and their togetherness mocking your pain. There are several steps for taking the best possible care of yourself. Although it is normal to have some sort of difficulty when you adopt them, constant practice will produce positive progress.
Allow yourself to cry. The most crucial phase in any relationship is breaking up process. Of course it is painful, when in pain it is not shame to cry. Crying is healthy. Some scientific evidence holds that crying prevent such illness as sore throat. Crying is cleansing. Do it on the phone late at night with a good friend, until the anxiety, frustration and pain exhausts you.
Remove them. Pack the photos, the jewelry, gifts and love letters. You don't have to destroy them, just put everything in the back of a closet you only go into once a year.
Be firm. Be firm in your decision if you really want to let him go. You must remember to cut all means of communication with him, no phone calls, no secret meetings if you want to let go of the other person says a psychologist. This is a stage where you have to implement corrective measures arising from the mistake you have committed. For example, if a man you loved fooled you into believing that he was single you can correct whatever mistake such a deception may have caused.
Just eat. There is good reason why you see dumped girlfriend digging into a gallon of ice cream or eating a whole chocolate cake (Chocolate which is often referred to as love drugs). Eating is preferable than landing in jail for crashing the car while calling your ex.
Just laugh. Laughing is scientifically proven relief for pain. Watch funny videos or call up the craziest friend you know and take him or her out for lunch and laughs.
Move. Keep exercising, if you have been an active person who exercises. Go the beach or an antique shop, create a new memories at the same time that you continue your usual health activities.
Write. Many artists have translated their grief into art. If you are not an artist, write down everything you miss about the person on the other side of the page. On the other side write down everything you will not miss, at the bottom, say goodbye.
Learn from the past. Know that people come into our lives to teach us what we need to learn. Know that they leave when the lessons are over. What's more important now is what you have learned from the beauty and bruises. With a positive mind and a clear conscience, you are now ready to start your life again. The best tool you can use: Forgive and forget. When you start doing this; hopefully, loving a man will come naturally to you again says a relationship expert.