When you're in love breaking up is hard to do.  But surviving a breakup is even a tougher task to do especially when you least expected it to happen.  Now, you are grappling with the painful realness of how love can be truly fickle at times says a renowned author.

You want to seek poetic justice, but luck doesn't seem to be with you.  You want to do things he always hated, like wearing pencil skirts and flirting with his friends, but your inner spirit is telling you not to stoop down in that level.  You wish he were dead, but he's very much alive, breathing and kicking hard.

According to a psychologist, life may not be fair but you don't have to pity yourself.  It's all right to feel a bit bitter; that makes you a true human being.  You still have a full life ahead of you.  Explore it even without him by your side says a guidance counselor.

    "we never stop loving someone, we just learn how to live without them."        

Here are advice on breaking up and some ways to survive a breakup without giving up your poise and wit shared from the expert:

• Listen to stories of not-so-perfect romances.  This is not to add insult to injury or prolong the bitterness.  It's actually a way to making you come to terms with the reality that not all ideal relationships as heavenly as they appear to be.  You may be envious of a friend who seems to have everything a woman could ever dream- all that money can buy and a husband who appears to be generous and gorgeous.  But what you may not realize is that the fact that you friend is feeling bored of her marriage because of her husband being a womanizer.  You'll appreciate the blessings of being free and single when you heart tales like this.

• Have some quiet time.  You deserve to get out from the hustle and bustle of life in this period of anguish and pain.  Cry a bucket if you must to free up your emotions then contemplate on how to start picking up the pieces.  You need to face the future with optimism and pride.
• Get busy.  Idleness is a breeding ground for emotional distress.  You feel the painful bite of loneliness when you're out there doing nothing. Accept a friends' offer to accompany her to their town fiesta.  This is an opportunity that will allow you to encounter some new people and explore never-before-seen places.  In the office ask for certain activities that will distracts you from the gloomy situation you're presently in.
• Talk to children after a break up.  Ask a child views on things if you have a six or seven-year-old nephew or niece.  And since children tend to say hilarious remarks, you'll relieved laughing your heart out with them.  So get the attention of the kid sitting next to you and start up a casual conversation  next time you're consumed by depression.

Look ahead and start from what is left of you.  So continue living the way you did when he was still around.  The world won't stop revolving without him by your side.  No matter how much you give, there will always be a part of you that you can never relinquish to anyone.  Even if it's only ten percent, it's still you; use it to find a new beginning commented an author.