Abusers want to be in control of others, and when they finally achieve this stage of abusive control, they feel very powerful says a psychologist.  The reason may be because they have a poor image of themselves because of inferiority complex, and  worse still, they may have some aberrations resulting in psychological or emotional problems the psychologist added.

Poor family upbringing can cause men to abuse women.  Another group of men who abuse women are those who come from dysfunctional families, where such abuse takes place on a regular basis with result that the children grow up and enter into the vicious cycle.  Abusive men with sadistic tendencies and those hate women fall into this category.    

                A woman in an abusive relationship

Another reason may be the mere fact that their mother or older women abused them when they were still young and they themselves subconsciously love abusing women who come their way to revenge what they received in the past.

             Some women feel trapped in an abusive relationship

Most women in abusive relationship relationship do not realize that what is happening to them is a kind of abuse and that their rights are being violated. 

Experts share signs of an abusive relationship:

• Does he constantly criticize you?   Some women are constantly criticized by their spouses or live-in partners, from clothes they wear to the way they look, walk even talk.  Everything they do is being criticized and belittled.
• Does he devalue your accomplishment, values and opinions?  In some families, the woman does not give opinion in certain matters that affect the home.  Even when she gives her opinion, the man ignores it or devalues it no matter how sound intelligent the opinion is.
• Does the man blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?  Studies show that men are in the habit of finding ways to blame the women whenever problems crop up in their relationship.
• Does he assume the right to control how you live and what you do?  Some men are in such abusive control that they assume the role of deciding everything that takes place in the house even the ones affecting the woman.  The woman in most cases accepts this abusive behavior for fear of provoking him to violence.  The man even decides what the woman buys, how she looks, what she wears and so on.
• Have you given up your interests and people in order to please him?  It is not uncommon for women caught up in abusive relationship to give up their goals, ambitions, interests, careers, friends and other family members as a way of pleasing the man.
• Do you apologize even when you have done nothing wrong?  There are some woman who are afraid to see their men angry for they already know what they are capable of doing in fit of anger.  They try to avoid anything that will precipitate anger, and always apologize for everything whether they did anything wrong or not.
• Is he insanely jealous and possessive?  There are women who fall victim to situations in different ways.  When they wear certain types of dresses and shoes, they accused of trying to seduce men, when they return home a bit late, they are again accused of flirting.
• Do you feel trapped?  Some women even when they finally realize that they are in abusive relationship still find it difficult to leave because they feel trapped.  This may be out of fear of losing their children because they are afraid of what an unstable man with an unstable mind is capable of doing.  However,  this is never a good reason for a woman to stay in such a relationship and risks her life says a psychologists.

Resource:  Mr. & Mrs. Magazine