"When a serious relationship ends, the parties find no joy in living.  That is because their hearts are wounded-literally- and need to heel for them to get on with their separate lives says a Ph.D.  Until the healing process is complete, men tend to stop caring as much, while women have problems with trusting again. As a result, men may get involved right away, but still they have trouble committing.  On the other hand, women will tend to avoid getting hurt again by not getting involved."  (Gordon, 1998)

Quotes for a broken heart

How to mend a broken heart

There are several ways to mend a broken heart.  A renowned author share the following tips:

Cry baby cry. Many scientists suspect that crying is good because of the chemical released through tears.  It just feels good to have a big cry.  Find a safe environment and allow yourself the time where you can let go and have a cry.

Nurture something. From changing the water in your cut flowers from buying a house plant to adopting a kitten, create a caring relationship with something new in your life, whatever scale you are able.

Positive solitude.  Maybe you aren't used to it, but spending sometime alone can be a great way to find time to do something you really enjoy like a leisurely bubble bath or watching your favorite DVD in a row.

Surround yourself with positive things.  Since it may be hard to sustain on optimistic outlook by yourself these days.  Choose the things that leave you feeling good, like seeing a photo of your best friend on your refrigerator every morning.  Use this time as an excuse to not read the front page of the newspaper.

Create a comfort around you.  This is the moment you've been waiting for: now you can justify the purchase of those rabbit slippers, a large selection of herbal teas, and the nicest smelling soap you can find.  Ask a friend to teach you to make chicken soup if you don't know how.

Phone listing.  Make a list of at least ten people you could call if the blues hit hard- that way you'll have enough numbers to dial in.

Be active.  Move your body.  Even if it's just through little activities like watering your plants, cleaning the house, or walking your dog.  Dust off you dining chairs or rent roller blades.  Don't just sit there, get up and run says a psychologist.

Healthy eating.  It's pretty basic stuff.  Your emotional health directly affects your emotional health, so take good care of yourself.

Make new friends.  The point is not to replace the person you may have just lost but remind yourself that there are a number of different people around you, all interesting in their own ways.  Allow yourself to be often to new kind of friendships.  Do you have friends over sixty years?  Under ten years old?

Broken hearts quotes

Really let go.  Despite the pain, allow pangs moments of emptiness, vivid dreams and memories of time to stay in your minds.  Don't try to reconnect by picking up the phone to call the person you are no longer in a relationship with.  Healing takes place more effectively when you finally really let go.  Until then it is hard to move forward.

Quotes on a broken heart

Hold on your dreams,  Just because your relationship ended doesn't mean that the dreams you had in the relationship are over too.  They are still your dreams and, although the characters may have changed, you can still take your dreams and pursue them in a new way. 

Surviving an emotional crisis is an art itself.  It takes a lot of courage to get over depression, insecurity, disillusionment and other negative feelings of being heart broken but there are ways to mend them.

Resource:  Gordon, Lynn. "20 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart." Mr. & Ms. 30 June 1998

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