For better, for poorer, in sickness or in health- these words, along with the rest  which comprise the traditional wedding vows, are among the clearest and most serious pledges to commitment ever made up by many according to a great writer.  That is why a marriage is, as one of the popular saying state, unlike hot rice that a person can spit out when it scalds the tongue; naturally, it is the opposite of loving marriages that will stood the test of time and circumstances.

It is already challenging enough in keeping a marriage together under normal circumstances.  That is why we look up at couples who went through mettle-testing challenges and pulled through together; their tales of success simply lift our sagging spirits.

Marriage tips

Like what people always say, it's easy to start a family.  The hard part is maintaining or managing it.  According to a sociologist it takes careful planning and tremendous creativity to be able to make a family thrive. 

 An author of the book, Family Development in Three Generations, give us relationship advice which families and young people about to marry can use as guidelines for a successful marriage:

             Wedding photo ideas

• Think before marriage. You have to ripen in body and in mind before you should do the great leap.  In short, marriage is not a race.  In a study made by the author, men who married before 25 had markedly lower incomes than men marrying when they were between 25 and 29,  Those who married after 25 were also likely to end up with better homes and more stimulating job due to their better educational backgrounds which qualified them for challenging, better-paying jobs.
• Have fewer children.   Most successful families have fewer children.  Studies show that with less children, investment can be more for each child; children are not left wanting for necessities as well as those little  luxuries because their parents can afford to provide them.

             Family photo poses

•  Shared decision making.  According to a study, in each successful families there is one person who have better judgment and better sense than the other.  Obviously, the one with better judgment should have a final word in expenditures.  It is wrong for the father to monopolize major family decisions if he is admittedly lousy when it comes to financial management.
• Trust, consideration and responsibility should be present.  Trust is one attribute that couples must have.  Trusting your loved one is imperative for a family to thrive.  If you keep doubting, the tendency is for you to feel in ordinarily jealous or feel less adequate.  Not trusting can make you a miserable person.  Think of the feelings and rights of the member of your family.  It is difficult to be considerate sometimes, especially if you are uncaring, but you have to be reminded that your partner having feelings and rights too that must be respected.  Take full responsibilities for whatever actions or decisions you make.  Be ready to apologize, if you did something wrong.  Accept accountability of your faults.

Resource:

                Jallorina, Aya. "Family Bonding in a World Falling Apart."  CHIC Magazine 19 June 00