In this incredibly harried and hurried, stress-filled life, we need to find ways to calm down and put things in perspective.  A famous Doctor of Philosophy shares gentle, supportive suggestions for making our life more peaceful and stress-free.

See Your Problems as Opportunities

According to a renowned author obstacles and problems are a part of life.  True happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems, but when we see them as potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice patience, and to learn.  Certainly some problems need to be solved.  Many others, however, are problems we create for ourselves by struggling to make our life different from it actually is.  Inner peace is accomplished by understanding and accepting the inevitable contradiction of life- the pressure and pain, failure and success,  joy and sorrow, births and deaths.  Problems can teach us to be humble and patient.

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Getting Involved is a Choice

Often our inner struggles come from our tendency to jump on board someone else's problem; someone throws you a concern and you assume you must catch it, and respond.  Developing a more tranquil outlook on life requires that we know our own limits and that we take responsibility for our part in the process.  The key is to know when we're catching another ball so that we won't feel victimized, resentful or overwhelmed.  Remembering that you don't have to catch the ball is a very effective way to reduce the stress in your life.  The same idea applies to being insulted or criticized.  When someone throws an idea or comment in your direction, you can catch it and feel hurt, or you can drop it and go on your day.

Tips for success in life

According to the author of the book Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, everything the good and bad, pleasure and pain, approval and disapproval, achievements and mistakes, fame and shame- all come and go.  Everything has a beginning and an ending and that's the way it's supposed to  be.  Every thought you've experienced has been replaced by another.  You've been happy, sad, jealous, depressed, angry, in love, shamed, and every other conceivable human feeling.  Where did they all go?  According to the author, no one really knows, all we know is that, eventually, everything disappears in nothingness.  When we're experiences pleasure we want it to last forever.  Or when we're experiencing pain we want it to go away-now, but it usually doesn't- unhappiness is the result of struggling against the natural flow of experience.

Realize the Power of your Experiences

According to studies it show in order to experience a feeling, you must first have a thought that produces that feeling. Unhappiness doesn't and can't exist on its own.  Unhappiness is that feeling that accompanies negative thinking about your life. In the absence of that thinking, the unhappiness, or stress, or jealousy can't exist.  The next time you're feeling upset, remind yourself that it's your thinking, that is negative, not your life.  This simple awareness will be the first step in putting you back on the path toward happiness. 

In the scheme of things, one hundred years isn't all that long.  However, one things for sure: a hundred years from now we will all be gone from the planet says a researcher.  That save you from getting over stressed and too uptight remembering that one hundred years from now, no one will remember this moment, and no one will care.

Resource: Women's Journal