The Psychology of Soulmates: Who They Are and Why We Long for One

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Knowing what a soulmate is and how to recognise one can be a challenge. Many people desperately want to meet a soulmate, but not all realise a soulmate can appear as someone who challenges us and propels us to be the best we can.

Individuals may dream of having a soulmate, and some claim to have been lucky enough to have met theirs. However, for a great deal of people finding a soulmate is a lifelong task, or they deny the existence of such a being.

It's human nature to want to be understood and loved deeply by another person. The urge to be entwined with a twin soul who absolutely accepts you as you are, and respects you can be immense. This may be because life is a struggle for individuals who have never felt this way. Attempting to change to please others can mean you have to deny your true self, while feeling as though you're not good enough. This can make the desire to have a soulmate that much stronger.

The idea that soulmates exist goes back to the story of Adam and Eve in the bible, who were literally made for each other. For this reason people may believe that God created soulmates for each person on Earth to share their life with.

People who believe in soulmates usually also believe in reincarnation, that is when a soul returns to Earth in a different body during a new lifetime. They may not take into account that such a soulmate may appear on the scene in a new life in order to achieve self growth, and aid theirs at the same time. It may be possible that a true soulmate is more of a challenge than romantics among us imagine.

A soulmate may be a person who helps us recognize parts of ourselves we need to work on, rather than a being who thinks we are perfect as we are. They may accept us in totality, but reflect our shortcomings and aid our spiritual development. This realization makes establishing who is, and who isn't a soulmate more difficult. The idea that a soulmate may arrive as a partner we don't have an easy relationship with can come as a surprise to individuals who have been waiting for a faultless relationship, and discarding those which don't fit in with their beliefs.

It is said that when soulmates meet they feel a magnetic attraction, due to brain chemistry and traveling along the same wavelength. Recognizing a soulmate requires individuals to use intuition and trust their inner voice, rather than judging prospective partners using ideals.

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