How to Strengthen Your Relationship in Simple, Loving Ways
Heartache, insecurities, and just the daily hassles of living together can cause friction in even the happiest couples. An experts show us how to make our relationship less stressful and more fun.
According to a psychologists you've met men and women who have left their spouses for someone else- someone younger or better looking, or someone who gave them more attention or had more money- or whatever without exception, the fantasy was better than the reality. New people may be wonderful, but, like the rest of us, they too have issues. Along with new partners come a new set of problems.
Appreciate what you have now if you can find a way to make the relationship you're already in be as good as it can be, says a psychologist.
Learn to laugh at yourself. A renowned author believed that if you are unable to laugh at yourself, you're in for a long, bumpy ride. You will struggle in your relationships because, as your partner teases you, notices your flaws, you will feel and probably act a bit defensive. Furthermore, this, in turn, will highlight your weaknesses, making them seem far more significant. Your reactions to your partner's comments will create additional issues for the two of you to deal with, and your "small stuff" will start to seem like a big stuff.
Over the years, we've seen hundred of similar conversation turns ugly because, instead of keeping a sense of humor and remaining lighthearted, the person on the receiving end of the not so-nice comment become defensive and took himself too seriously. His inability to have a sense of humor encourage him to lash back, argue, or start a fight. Often when you keep your sense of humor and remain humble, your partner will sense when he has been too harsh and will end up apologizing for his comments says a psychologist.
Not taking yourself so seriously, you will become much easier to be around. Your partner won't fell as though she has to walk around an eggshells, making sure you don't get upset. At the end, because you have created a more nourishing and safe environment for your partner, your relationship will be more loving and a heck of lot more fun.
Don't feel superior. A guidance counselor reveal that ideally, everyone who is in a love relationship should treat their partner as a one hundred percent equal, in every sense of the word. For a variety of reasons, there are some people, both men and women, who feel a sense of superiority and feel their role or contribution more significant than their partners. One of the greatest gifts you can give youself and ultimately, your relationship is to know your own value, to feel secure that you are special, unique, and important. There isn't a person in this world who is just like you, and no one could take your place.
A psychologist revealed that there are many people who buy into their partner's sense of self-importance. The wage earner acts as if their partner is lucky to be 'taken care of'. When both partners feels secure in their unique contribution. It's nourishing to a relationship when each feels he or she's an equal partner.
Resource: Woman's Journal