The start of any sexual relationship can be both exciting and frightening, giving the relationship a magnetizing attraction that is all at once wonderful and nerve racking. Depending on the relationship the sexual encounter could be a one-time thing, or it could be part of a steady relationship. Obviously, one night stands are not really a matter of concern for people when it comes to maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. Committed relationships, however, are a completely different story. What does it take to keep your sex life interesting, fun, and meaningful?

1) Affection – For two people to just get together and do the deed requires little more than a physical connection, but for people who are starting, or continuing, a relationship, affection is key. Affection can be a large part of the intimate connection between partners, and shows both people that there is a great deal of trust being shared.

2) Mix it Up – No, this does not necessarily mean threesomes or other adventurous interactions. Changing up your sex life can mean doing things like role-playing, changing positions, trying new positions, and incorporating new external elements such as toys and atmosphere. Try going between passionate love-making sessions to gentle, romantic moments. Vary the foreplay and experiment with new ideas.

3) Meaningful – Being meaningful doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to make goo goo eyes at each other all night. Make your time together meaningful by using the time wisely. Respect each other’s desires, listen to each other, and put in the extra effort to make your partner feel loved and sexy.

4) Planned and Unplanned – Sometimes our lives get so full and busy with outside business and concerns that our sexual relationships get put on the back burner. Forgetting about your partner can be a huge mistake in a relationship, and a faltering sex life often leads down to some bad pastures. If you are one of those people whose life revolves around a planner, start writing in some date nights with your partner. Prioritize your time. If your partner isn’t important enough to make time for, then perhaps you need to take a second look at your relationship. Conversely, spontaneous sex can bring some thrills to both you and your partner, as spontaneity can be fun and completely sexy.

5) Romance – Sometimes flower petals and warm massage oils are a good way to get in the mood. Bring a little romance either into your bedroom, or leading up to your bedroom. Men and women have different ideas of what romance entails, so try to think of what your partner would like. Obviously you’re already in the mood if you’re putting in the effort.

Sex is a huge part to most long-term relationships and marriages. It’s not always easy to maintain an active, healthy sexual relationship, but it is very worth it in the end to both you and your partner. Don’t be afraid to look online or in sex help books for new ideas. Ask your partner what excites him/her and go with it. You just might learn something that you would never have guessed could be true.