How to Convince Your Parents to Get You a Horse
Convincing your parents to get you a pet is hard enough, convincing your mom and dad to get you a horse is even harder.
Here is the thing: Your parents are responsible for providing you with food, water, shelter, clothing, and education. They are not responsible for getting you a horse, even if they are filthy rich. There are things you need to think about before you even think about convincing your parents to get you a horse.
Also, unless your parents are horse people your chances of convincing them to get you a horse are probably less than 5%. Non-horsey parents will not know enough, and might even be scared of horses.
A horse is a very expensive hobby. Not only is there the initial purchase price but on going expenses. Either you have to board it somewhere for a monthly fee, or you have to buy food for it and do the work yourself. Horses need farrier care every 6-8 weeks and should be vaccinated just like our cats and dogs. They need to be dewormed and may need regular teeth maintenance. Saddlery and equipment is also needed and often very high priced.
If a horse is sick or injured, veterinarian care is not cheap.
Who is responsible for these expenses? If you ask your parents to buy you a horse, will they be in charge of all the other ongoing financial needs?
These are facts you need to be aware of before you try to convince anybody to buy you any living pet. What are you going to do now to show that you are willing to help with the expenses? If you get a part time job will you still have time to ride or care for the horse? How long are you willing to work and save money up in advance?
A miniature horse, strictly a pet, not used for riding. Photo by Author.
Before asking for a horse you need to show your level of commitment, not just to horses, but to their financial needs for upkeep.
What do you know about horses? Do you know how to diagnose lameness, or other basic health concerns? Of course a veterinarian is the one in charge of a final diagnosis, but you need to know the basics so you do not ride your horse when it is in pain and should not be ridden.
Do you know how to groom horses, catch them, clean their feet, tack them up? These are things you should know first.
How good are your riding skills? Are you comfortable only in the arena or can you ride a horse alone on a trail? When you have your own horse you need to keep it mentally stimulated, this means spending time doing different things, in other words not all the time will be spent in the arena, some time is important spent just going for rides in the woods.
Are you confident over low jumps? Even western riders should be comfortable going over small jumps? Can you stop a run away horse? Have you ever fallen off?
What do you want to do with your horse? If you are going to be competitive how will you get to shows, do you have a truck and trailer and the money to pay for shows? Or will your parents be expected to pay for that too?
Photo of Author and her Arabian gelding, The Sorcerer, at a horse show, purchased after leaving home.
Ask yourself if asking your parents to buy you a horse is really realistic. If they buy you a horse, what do they have to buy your brothers and sister to be fair?
You need to show responsibility, keeping your room clean is only part of that. Getting a job (as mentioned) is another part. Keeping good grades is also important.
You need to be willing to sacrifice other financial commitments your parents have made for you. In other words you need to not ask for other things, such as clothing, trips to the movies, or a cell phone. If the horse is your priority you need to make it so, and not only leave the burden on your parents.
Instead of trying to convince your parents to buy you a horse, ask for riding lessons. Many people get horses with only a beginner level of riding and very soon become disappointed or frustrated and soon the horse is back up for sale. Your lessons should also include basic care, grooming, health, and so forth.
When talking to parents you need to be aware that nagging does not work, it builds walls. You can be subtle, instead of asking them to buy you a horse, as their opinion of horses, do they like them, did they ever like them, and so forth. You can even show them pictures of a few different breeds and ask which one they like the most. Begging will put them right off the whole thing. This is not an over night process, it takes months, or years.
This is a foal I purchased with her mother after going to College to learn more about horses and how to train them.
For the record, I loved horses too! I never did convince my parents to get me a horse even though I thought they could afford one. They gave me riding lessons instead, and paid for me to go to College so I could learn more about horses and could get a job to buy my own. Which I did, and you can too! In the end, I think this was better, especially if your parents are not interested in horses and mine were not.