Patience and autism need to have a relationship. When you raise a child with autism, it's tough at times to obtain patience and even more so to maintain it. How can you be more patient with your autistic child? I know as a mother raising a young son with autism how difficult it can be to understand the needs of your child when he/she is on a completely different wavelength.
What is it that's most challenging between you and your autistic child? Is it not being able to comprehend his/her speech? Is it the yelling, stimming (arm flapping, pushing self backward and forward), giving directions over and over again, or the awkward social behavior? If anyone has and still is living with this, it's me. The advice I give here isn't anything elaborate, but they are small ways to cope in living with autism.
How to Be More Patient With Your Autistic Child - Meltdown Dramas
When you're child is having a meltdown and reasoning is the last thing on his/her mind, it's so important to not unleash your frustration on the child. It's an irony I'm writing this because I'm one of the most impatient people in the world. I have to remind myself to chill out during those insane moments when I just wish my son would listen to me and realize it's not the end of the world. What I've noticed that works well is going into another room, or taking a brief break outside. If it's too combative to get your kid in his/her bedroom to have their tantrum, just leave the room. Go into the bathroom if you need to. Just get away when you feel your surge of blood pressure go up in frustration. Whatever you do, don't yell or scream at your child.
How to Be More Patient With Autism in Social Situations
This is a difficult situation to find yourself in and I personally have a quite an experience with it. You leave for errands or visit a friend and have to deal with your autistic child's awkward behavior in social settings. It's not easy and certainly tries your patience. How can you be patient when your kid is doing everything to push your buttons at someone's house, in the store, or at a public event? Honestly, I'm still working on that myself. However, I notice if I calmly handle the problem, others understand and it's easier to be more patient. It's about how you handle the ordeal. If you get uptight, loud, and demanding to your autistic child, then everyone looks down on you and feel you don't have a lid on how your child is acting. As parents, we certainly can't stand it when we're harshly judged for how we handle our children. Fortunately, autism has a lot of awareness. People understand it more than ever and when they see some of the curious behaviors of your autistic child, they will figure it out and you can rest easy knowing you have a lot of support. The key is being calm and quietly reining in your son or daughter when they disrupt a scene. It really makes all the difference.
Other Ways You Can Be More Patient With Your Autistic Child
There are other avenues of being more patient and I've only covered the surface, but they work for me. I find that when I'm really at the end of my rope, I get on the computer or talk to a friend on the phone until I feel more relaxed. It helps me cope when I need to take my mind off a less than desirable episode with my son. With autism you're forced to live with a lot of repetitive behavior and you find yourself being as repetitive in getting your point through to your autistic child. It's wearing and you'll have your patience tested over and over. Autistic children pick up on your stress signals easily and what triggered your impatience to begin with only escalates.
Why Patience With Your Autistic Child is So Vital
It's important to develop any sort of patience you can when it comes to autism. Autistic children are told between 250-500 times more often than a typical developing child what they need to do in certain instances before it really sinks in for them. My issue a lot of the time is that my son knows the rules or expectations, but he doesn't understand the why reasoning and he doesn't do what he's suppose to. The good news is that's not just autistic kids, it's typical kids as well!
How to be more patient with someone afflicted with autism is individual. I hope a few of these suggestions have been helpful for you and your family.