Are the Women of Nigeria the Most Sexually-Responsible Women in the World?
The Federal Republic of Nigeria is located in West Africa, bordered by the Republic of Benin on the west, Chad and Cameroon on the east, Niger on the north, and the Atlantic Ocean on the south. With three major ethnic groups, the Hausa, Igbo, and Yoruba, Nigeria is roughly split half and half between Muslims and Christians, with a very small minority who practice indigenous religion.
The most densely populated country in Africa, Nigeria is also the most populous nation in the world in which the majority of the population is black. As the largest exporter of oil in all of Africa, it has one of the fastest growing economies in the world, and is listed among the “Next Eleven” economies, those having the highest potential of joining the world’s largest economies in the 21st century.
On the African scale, Nigeria is a considerable regional power, where ethnocentrism, tribalism, and religious persecution play a visible role in day to day politics. This means that kinship nepotism is a dominant feature of Nigerian politics, where tribalists make constant attempts to sway Federal power to a particular region. But by and large, Nigeria is a hegemony in which class distinction keeps most of the population subservient to a small group of elites, making for great disparity between the classes. But as a recent cultural examination has shown, modernity has created an even greater disparity between the sexes
As recent statistics show (2010), Nigerian woman are perhaps the greatest users of sex toys in the world. As explained by Princess Sola Oladimeji in an article recently appearing in Nigerian World Newspaper, as chief executive officer of Oju-Ogeâ’s World, one of the more popular sex toy outlets in Nigeria, she’s witnessed first-hand the surge in the purchase of various types of sex toys in recent years, explaining, “There are a lot of women who kept several lovers before marriage and you know these men would come with various penis sizes. So when such a woman gets married, she might end up with a man who may not satisfy her in bed. But in order not to commit adultery, she would resort to sex toys. It will satisfy her and also save her marriage.” But is that all there is to the story?
A trend also acknowledged by marriage therapist, Funmi Akingbade, Akingbade reports that while penis size and expectation is one factor, many women who stay with their husbands are usually deprived of good sex for several other reasons. For instance, “Sometimes the man will have other women, especially the young girls outside and he won’t have time for his wife. Such men are always giving one excuse or the other to their wives when they get home,” Akingbade explains. “Another thing is that many of our men masturbate, and are always in a rush when they want to have sex with their wives. They don’t have time for foreplay at all and therefore they hardly ever satisfy their wives. Many times many of these women come to me to assist them in purchasing sex toys for them.” Akingbade even cited the instance of a woman who claimed that her husband had encouraged her to buy the sex toys, telling her to think of him while using them.
Mr. Uche Edochie, fellow Nigerian and managing director of Zee Virtual Media, whose organization has been credited with popularizing sex toys and other adult products in Africa, adds some very revealing perspective. “In Nigerian society, men of status traditionally have more than one woman. In tribal times, having several wives was considered a sign of virility and sexual prowess. Of status. As the role of men has diminished in African society in general, and in Nigeria in specific, men feel more and more powerless. It isn’t enough just to be head of the household, he must have the power to hold position in his community. And this sometimes means taking women he cannot truly afford, expending resources and energy needed at home. In the end, it is the woman who suffers. Sex-starved, they are now turning to vibrators and dildos to replace their men. ”
Since the World Health Organization began campaigning in Nigeria in 2009 for safe sex and abstinence to fight the spread of AIDS and HIV in Africa, statistics show that while prostitution seems to be on the decline, the incidence of men maintaining multiple relationships is on the rise. One could easily argue that women who now make up the greatest sex-toy demographic in the world are not just reacting to a changing societal structure, they are making what is possibly the most reasonable and logical move possible. Sex toys are safe, effective, solve the problem of sexual dissatisfaction and disloyal spouses (while allowing men to pursue age-old social status), and all without spreading disease. In choosing them over other more pernicious and destructive options, it could be said that they might just be the most sexually-responsible women in the world.
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