Have you become rusty in the fine art of dating?  Or maybe, you are having anxiety attacks because you are going on your first date.  No date is perfect says a relationship expert.  But you can make it less awkward and more fun if you start right.  Here are 10 mistakes in dating you should avoid on a date.  Who knows, you might even improve your chances of finding your match.            

Mistakes in Dating:

• Being late.  You make a bad impression when you make your date wait for hours on end.  It shows your selfishness and lack of organization without even calling him to give a notice why you are still a no-show.
• Talk too much.  Give him a chance to speak too.  You are suppose to get to know your date.  Ask questions that will encourage him to tell you about himself.  Talking about intimate details of a past relationship is a no-no says a relationship expert.

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• Too serious.  Don't be afraid to express yourself.  Some people react to tension by becoming too formal and stiff.  Smile, relax and show genuine interest in your date, even if he is not handsome.  He may be fun-loving and witty for all you know.

• Not listening.  Give full attention to your date.  It's certainly embarrassing having to ask him to repeat what he just asked you for the fourth time!

• The liar.  Don't be a liar.  Some people pretend to be the person they are not to impress their date.  Relationships that starts with lies end in failure.  So don't brag about positions you don't really have.
• Being negative.  Leave you negative thoughts behind.  People tend to look for someone who will bring sunshine into their lives.  So even if your date asks about your problems, don't share it by crying out loud.  You don't even know him that well.  Instead wear a positive aura and allow to radiate in the way you look, speak and move.
• Argumentative.  Stay away from religion and politics.  There's a multitude of topics that you can talk about on your date.  Would you want to pick a fight with your date?
• Sounding desperate.  Don't volunteer unnecessary information like, "No one ever asks me out." or "This is my first date in five years," you might scare off your date.
• Asking personal information.  Don't be an eager beaver by asking personal information.  Don't ask how much is his salary or whether he owns his house.  It will make you sound like a gold-digging snoop.
• Gender-bashing.  Some woman would comment: "Some guys have guy lovers" or "Man only want sex."  Don't be surprised to find your date has vanished if you have this kind of attitude.
• You say hello. Say hello to 36 men you know in the restaurant he brings you to.
• Secrets revealed.  Revealing your deepest secrets right off that you have a love-child is a no-no.

 Do-It-Yourself-Massage

Feeling tense and wondering how your date will turn out to be?  You have checklist all the necessary preparations-clothes, shoes, makeup, accessories but still feel restless.  According to experts to keep your head together and get rid of stress try this do-it-yourself- massage.

1. Take a deep breath.  Inhale deeply from your diaphragm, not your chest.  This means you should be able to see your belly expand.  Then exhale; your belly should deflate.  Concentrate on breathing this way (ten in, ten out) ten times.
2.  Put your feet first.  Using your thumb, rub from the center of your foot and toward your toes. Then gently tug each toe a few times, and massage between your toes, too.
3. Feeling an anxiety headache.  Lightly press your temples for three seconds, or until you feel your pulse.  Release, massage the area along your hairline, between your brows, the arches of your brows, and the top of your check bones.

          Resource:

                 Diomampo, Rhia, "10 Dating Mistakes You Should Avoid"  Woman Today, 18 June 08