IS A BROKEN FAMILY HEREDITARY?
“It runs in the family,” is a common saying in the circles of successful families of politicians, businessmen, architects, educators, doctors, lawyers and even carpenters. The son and daughter of the late President Ferdinand Marcos including his wife, Mrs. Imelda Marcos is into politics as of this day. The same as the incumbent President, Benigno Aquino III, the son of the late president Cory Aquino and Senator Benigno Aquino are into politics.
One of the notable family names in medieval architecture in Netherlands is the Keldermans family, of which seven generations were architects and sculptors. Their specialty is working in the Brabantine Gothic style.
The Peale Family has been tag as a talented family of artists. Charles Willson Peale (1741-1827) painted more than 1,000 portraits of the best figures in colonial America.
Two of his sons, Raphael and Rembrandt; his brother James, was a famous miniature painter; two of his daughters, Anna Claypole and Sarah Miriam were among the earliest painters in America.
In professional sports, many of athletes are sons who have followed the footsteps of their fathers, there’s Bobby and Barry Bonds. Archie Manning, a former American quarterback of the National Football League, spawned a professional football dynasty with his sons Eli and Peyton. There is the Ken Griffeys and Cal Ripkens (a former Major League Baseball shortstop and third baseman), junior and seniors.
Professionals like doctors, lawyers and others occasionally end up with marrying spouses with the same profession and commonly their children end up into their own profession too, but there is always an exception.
Is a broken family “runs in the family” too?
Here is an account of a family which I knew and very close to me. You may definitely not know them but I intentionally withdraw their names for their right of privacy.
A sweet lady of age around 80-years or so now resides in the US for years now. She worked there and now living in her retirement status because of the benefits and health care there.
Her first marriage was in the Philippines with a foreigner – an American. She has one daughter on her first marriage. Since there is no divorce in the Philippines, her husband left her and went back to US. She married again a Chinese businessman and begets six children, one boy and five girls.
Her first daughter on her first marriage got married to a foreigner as well, begetting a daughter. She got separated and married a Filipino politician and begets two children, a boy and a girl. After having a family conflict, they again separate ways. She met a businessman and lived together and begets four children of one boy and three girls.
Her first son on her second marriage lives also in US with a steady job and a happy family with three daughters. He has a good wife with a happy marriage except for some problems about his daughters’ liberated living.
Her first daughter on her second marriage is married to a Filipino. They have two healthy boys but another family feud made them separated. Her husband died of prostate cancer while she migrated to Europe and married again.
Her second daughter was happily married with two daughters. When their family migrated in America, her husband left their family for another woman. She died of lung cancer due to extensive depression resulting from their separation.
The next daughter was happily married with a professional engineer who works overseas. They have two daughters. She was involved to another married man so they separated and begets a daughter out of this infidelity. Her first husband died of liver cancer. She met again a young man; they lived together and have a son. They got separated again and she has all her children under her custody.
The next daughter is happily married to a man who worked as a sea crew. They have one daughter and they got separated when her husband did not come back for her. She met a dedicated man and married her. They beget a son. Her husband worked in the US and died of lung cancer. She migrated to Canada, she is now living with her son and family with a granddaughter.
Her youngest daughter is living in the US. She never thinks of getting married; being afraid and aware of the circumstances of a “broken family” experienced by her siblings.
Broken family has enormous effect on both spouses. It can also kill because of extensive depression. The effects on children are also excessive, psychologically and physically. But the debate is always on; just like “living with the enemy” or separately with the concern for the welfare of the children.
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