Portrait Of Mental Abuse: Scared Within

Portrait of Mental Abuse Scared Within. Hi the subject in this article is about parents and their children. I plan to discuss and cover a subject I believe that will help you give your child a good and positive start in life. I also believe everything I will discuss in this article will stay in your child’s mind and will have a positive impact on their lives for all of their life.

This subject is about mental abuse and how you as parents can hopefully learn from the affects of mental abuse that you may be inflecting upon your children. I have titled this article portrait of mental abuse because it concerns the mental abuse I received as a child and how it affected my life.

I know that all parents are not perfect and I realize that some children are raised in a single parent environment. I also realize that children are raised in foster homes, adopted homes, and institutions where many children are housed and taken care of. I also know that children are raised in environments where one or both parents either drink alcohol or take some type drug for their self enjoyment or it’s just their way of dealing with live and its problems.

First let me tell you about my child hood so you can relate to why I am writing this article. I was raised with two parents a father and a mother. My father when he would come home from work and would drink, smoke, cuss and was very abusive to my mother and all three of my sisters, myself and my younger brother.

My father did not have much patience with me or any other family member. I remember when I was in the fifth grade learning how to do my multiplication and I would sit down at the kitchen table to start doing my math homework. I remember hating to see my dad come over to the table to help me with my multiplication homework. When I could not understand how to multiply he would tell me I was stupid and was not paying attention. After hearing those words over and over again for so many times I remember setting on my bed in my room hurting and thinking from within about those words. That day in my room I made a promise to myself that when I grew up I was going to be nothing like my father and that I was going to be a good husband and father to my children.

Those words still scared my mind for a long time and I didn’t even realize how those three words affected the rest of my school years and my ability to multiply or do any type math problem. I remember struggling through seventh grade and cheating and coping off other students work to pass seventh grade math. I was glad to get through that year because the school system didn’t require math for the rest of my school years.

When I graduated from high school I still had problems dealing with anything that was math related like balancing a check book or taking a test for a job that requires math skills. It has taken me many years to overcome what is referred to today as mental abuse.

I thank God for a mom that feared God more than she did my dad and took my sisters, brother and myself to church. My mom taught us about the love and forgiveness that Jesus has for us and how to love and forgive others who abuse you or mistreat you.

I could blame my father for all of the changes or setbacks I have had in life. I could even blame him for not achieving all of what I could have achieved. I could even hold a grudge in my heart and let that grudge keep me from having a relationship with my father and separating our companionship for all of my life.

I could have played the blame game all my life and used those excuses because of what happen to me in my past and feel sorry for myself. But God with his love helped me to be the productive person that I am today.

Mental abuse is only one type of abuse but there are other types of abuse like physical abuse and sexual abuse. The only difference between mental abuse, sexual abuse and physical is that with mental abuse the scars are hidden within.

In closing I encourage all parents and adults to talk with their children and encourage them by speaking words into their lives that lift them up and not tear them down. I would also encourage parents and adults to be involved and supportive with your child in their school years. I would also recommend that parents and adults get the whole family involved with a church that believes in God and that Jesus is his son.