50 Ways to Make a Guy Fall for You

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50 Ways to Make a Guy Fall for You

Updated May 21, 2011
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I wrote a Factoid called "50 Ways to Make a Girl Fall for You" and one of the comments was that it only told half the story - there ought to be a Factoid with 50 Ways to Make a Guy Fall for You. I thought this was a fair point, as there are two people in every relationship, so here we are. Seeing as I'm a girl, I enlisted the help of my boyfriend and a couple of guy friends. Now, I want to re-iterate that you can't make anyone do anything - sometimes it just isn't meant to be - but, you can often help your case along.

  1. Get to know him. Ask questions about what he likes and doesn't, his family, his job. Take an interest.  
  2. Give him some alone time. Just like there are things that you would rather not have your boyfriend around for (ie, waxing your underarms, bleaching your moustache - I don't know what your issues are, but I'll bet there's something) there are things that he would rather do free of you. 
  3. Let the little things go. Nobody is perfect, and life is too short to fixate on every little thing.
  4. Stop by with his favourite beer or snack. Even if you don't intend on staying.
  5. Some activities are better off done with his guy friends. Chances are, your girlfriends are a better choice to take to see Twilight. He might enjoy going to see a game, action movie, or certain concert better with his guy friends. Be understanding of this, and don't resent that he chose to invite them instead of you. Plan something fun for your and your ladies instead.
  6. Jealousy is ugly. You see how wonderful this guy is, so you're certain that every other woman on the planet must see it too. Stay reasonable and rational. You are wonderful too, which is why he wants to be with you in the first place, and NOT these other women.
  7. Don't make him jealous. Not on purpose. This is game playing, and completely unnecessary. He should want you on your own merits, not just because other people want you too.  
  8. Take an interest in his interests. The closer you get, the more time you spend together. He will appreciate that you watch a football game with him once in awhile, or read a book that he said he liked. Chances are, at some point he will be returning the favour.
  9. Be happy. Your guy will appreciate having a positive presence in his life and that you can lift his spirits when he's down. 
  10. Make the first move. Ask for his number, you initiate the kiss. Guys usually have to do all of the work. Be confident and take some of the load off of him.
  11. Give him a massage. Who doesn't love them?
  12. Watch a sports game with him. Pay attention, try to learn the rules, and the players names. Between periods, whistles, downs, innings, of course.
  13. Keep the details on the DL. I know girls love discussing every small detail, but think about what needs to remain private before engaging in relationship chit chat. That's his business too, so respect it by knowing when to share and when to keep it secret. Also, if you're arguing, resist the urge to hash out your side with your friends. It's not fair to him; it's the same as saying something bad behind his back. It might change the way your friends view him, and later, when you've forgiven and forgotten they may not have.
  14. Compliment him.
  15. Be grateful. If he does something nice for you - gets the cheque, opens your door, gives you a present - make sure you notice and say thank you.
  16. Holidays are for him too. Girls seem to get all the attention on holidays like Vanlentine's Day, or on anniversaries. Take him out, get him a present, or prepare some gesture for him as well. 
  17. Let him recharge his batteries. Guys like silence when they get home from work for 15 minutes or so. I'm the exact opposite and I know a lot of other girls are the same. Respect his need to recharge, then engage him in conversation.
  18. Take it slow. Even if you want marriage and babies and a white picket fence, there's no need to bring it up on the first date. 
  19. Play outside. What's his favourite sport? Ask him to toss the football, baseball or basketball around with you for fun. Even if you're not very good, it shows you have an interest, gets you outside and bonding together.
  20. Avoid too much PDA. This is for everyone's sake, really. He does not need the razzing from his buddies.
  21. Be up front with him. If there's something that bothers you, respectfully let him know what it is and why it's a concern for you. Holding it in and brooding over it does no one any good.
  22. Don't wear too much make up. Find a way to let your natural beauty show through. You don't want him to be surprised the first time he sees you without it. 
  23. Respect his space. If he lets you leave some things at his place, be mindful. He probably doesn't want a box of tampons on his fireplace mantle or a giant pink teddy bear in his bed. 
  24. Show your smarts. It isn't the 40's anymore, where women were supposed to pretend they were stupid so that men could feel superior. Men respect women who have a good head on their shoulders and can take care of themselves.
  25. Be yourself. Sometimes people will go out of their way to make someone like them, but it's important to stay true to yourself as well. If he says he likes something, you don't necessarily have to like it too or pretend that you know everything about it. He loves olives, you don't - that's perfect - you can always give him yours. He loves The Godfather movies, you've never seen them - great - you can watch them together.
  26. Be confident. It's really nice that he gives you compliments, but you can't need or require them of him. You should be proud of yourself without needing him to bolster you, and everything else is a bonus.
  27. Play video games with him. You might suck - or you might beat him. Either way, it could be a good time.
  28. Find excuses to slyly touch him. 
  29. Have a sense of humour. And respect that his might not always be the same as yours. Guys find some weird things funny - you have to let him have those weird things, even if you don't understand it all the time. 
  30. Play hard to get. You don't need to put out to get someone to like you. And you definitely shouldn't do anything you're not comfortable with, just to make someone like you. The right guy will respect you for going at the pace that you feel is right. 
  31. Judge the pace of the relationship. If he's so awesome, you might want to text or call him about a thousand times a day. Resist the urge. You don't want someone to feel smothered, especially early on or it might scare them off. 
  32. Take him to see an action movie.
  33. Take care of your appearance. Once you're in a relationship, it gets easy to fall into the sweat pants, messy bun on top of your head slump. It's good to be able to be comfortable with your boyfriend, but make sure you step it up once in awhile so he remembers how fabulous you can be and feels special that you still put in the effort for him.
  34. Give him a sexy picture of you. I'm not saying it has to be nude. In fact, don't make it naked unless you seriously trust him. It could just be you in your favourite dress or bathing suit with a mischievous gleam in your eye. Guys are very visual, and he will love it. 
  35. Maintain your original friendships. A lot of my friends have fallen into the trap of spending all their spare time with their guy once they're in a great relationship. Make time for your friends. Spending time apart gives you stories to tell each other once you get back together.
  36. Don't be afraid to eat a burger. Or ribs. Or pizza. Guys like a girl with an appetite, so once in awhile ditch the salad and enjoy a hearty meal together. 
  37. Get to know his friends. Be nice to them, of course. They're a part of him, so it's important to build friendships with them as well. No flirting, but it definitely doesn't hurt to have them telling him how awesome you are. 
  38. Be trust-worthy.
  39. Be punctual. The whole notion of being "fashionably late" is just rude. Being late just says that you think your time is more valuable than the other persons. I've never heard of anyone saying "Yeah, I just didn't like her because she was always on time! What is with that?"
  40. Don't be high maintenance. Having expectations is important, but you don't need to be spoiled with extravagant gifts, or waited on hand and foot. It's the little gestures that mean the most, so focus on those and be happy for them.
  41. You make the plans. Take the pressure off of them, and plan a date.
  42. Try something totally new together. You're sure to bond as you experience something new for the first time together. And it will create a memory specific to the two of you. 
  43. Don't be afraid to get dirty. Go camping. Go for a hike. Just make sure you leave the heels at home. 
  44. Ask his advice when you know he's an expert. He'll love being able to help you out, and it shows you respect his strengths.
  45. Cook him dinner. Who doesn't love a home cooked meal? It's thoughtful, and you get to eat it together. 
  46. Dress conservatively when you meet his family. 
  47. Forgive and forget. There's no need to hold onto grudges. There will always be arguments; it can't be helped. But don't bring old arguments up later on. Once something is sorted out, let it become a thing of the past.
  48. Accept him for who he is. If you are constantly nagging at someone to change, they probably aren't meant to be with you. You have to accept that every person has flaws. 
  49. Support him in his goals and passions.
  50. But also be able to challenge him. Guys will appreciate a woman who is confident enough to match him in a debate, and brave enough to be honest.

So these are just a few suggestions to help you on your way. Wishing you luck in love and life!